One of the worst parts about growing up is growing apart from old friends.

Whether it is a best friend from high school or someone that has been a good friend since elementary school, sometimes when you’re older, being friends just doesn’t work out the way you want it to.

It may not even take a fight for the two of you to stop talking.

Maybe one day you just realize that it has been a month since you’ve talked to one of the people you were closest to for a large part of your life, and even though it has been a month, you feel no need to call or text them because they just don’t fit into the life you have anymore.

Over the summer, one of my closest friends and I had a falling out.

In high school, we were inseparable. We ate lunch together almost every day, went to the mall on the weekends, and told each other everything from our boy troubles to how our families were driving us crazy.

To be honest, she was my only true friend from my high school that I could depend on and trust.

Now, it has been about four months since we last talked and I’m not sure why. One day we just stopped talking and hanging out.

The first few weeks I didn’t really notice, but then she deleted me on Facebook, and I was hurt. It felt like I had just broken up with someone, and as much as I missed her, I wasn’t going to be the one to give in first and call.

Last week, I finally put aside my pride and re-added her on Facebook. I didn’t feel weird about it until she accepted my friend request, because now I don’t know how to actually go about talking to her again. Do I message her and say, ‘hey, sorry I left for Kansas without seeing you,’ or do I wait for her to contact me?

Either way, it is one of those growing up situations that I wish I hadn’t gotten myself into.

It’s one of those things that I’ve seen happen to other friends and that was bound to happen to me.

Part of growing up is learning to keep people around that are worth keeping around, and not wasting time on the people that don’t give you the time you deserve.

Maybe something we should remember is not to let pride get in the way of anything important to you, because eventually you lose out on something more significant than that; I lost my best friend.